Your husband has just told you he has been having an affair. He says he still loves you but the new woman is exciting and cares about the way she looks. His question to you is. Why did you let yourself go?
Affairs are heartbreakers. They often come like a bolt of lightning out of nowhere and leave a path of betrayal and disaster. When your husband explains that he had an affair because you no longer looked like the girl he married it is going to really hurt. Part of you is so angry and you want to throw something while the other wants to pack a bag and leave.
Does he have a point? When you first met you were meticulous in your dress code. Your hair was always lovely and your make up perfect. The thing is men are really affected by looks and if their Cinderella suddenly turns into the ugly stepsister can you blame him for looking elsewhere. Men have a different point of view about things like this as they are more sexually driven. They have more magazines of nude girls on the stands than we do of men in that undressed fashion. Do you catch us in the store ogling at the centrefold? No we are too busy doing the shopping and buying the kids new shoes.
So after having a few kids you may have let yourself go. You may have added some weight and not been to the hairdresser for a while. You can scream at your husband that they do not understand what it is like to be pregnant. But will he listen? The problem here is he may be the most caring dad in the world but he still wants his woman looking fine.
If getting your appearance back together means saving the marriage surely it is worth it. Please do not get me wrong I am strong and very independent lady but I keep myself looking good. It makes me feel great and it adds to the romance.
Sometimes when women are having babies they do not feel the same as men. Since they guys do not bear much change their urges and needs do not change. You see men think they signed a contract that meant this gorgeous woman they married would stay looking good forever. When you are ready to jump ship in the marriage maybe think about a quick makeover first and remember men think differently.